The church is really good at putting on a happy, wholesome face to show the world, but if you look behind the curtain, you see that it's a despicable cult. Marriage offers a chance to develop generosity of spirit and a willingness to be improved by the one we love, no matter what faith tradition he or she may claim. This woman has already given two full years fully devoted to the institution without question. Sometimes I think he is the man who shouldn't have had a family but just a career too late for that now though. And to top things off, last night I caught him cheating. I'd suggest the essays. Mormons can be pretty crazy without it.
It's like talking to a wall. But I love him. I also just care about him enough and admire his reasons for becoming a doctor that I'm willing to make sacrifices so that his life is easier. Don't think it's just women married to male physicians who suffer.
Think of every possible scenario you can think of. For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage. If I were you, I would just nope out of it and move on.
The fact that she is dating an atheist non-Mormon shows pretty serious lack of conformity already. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. I have believed in for better for worse but I cant do it any longer.
